Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Passing Women's Tests

As you learn how to use the principles of attraction successfully, you will begin to build attraction really quickly with women. They are not used to this happening. Because of this, they will often test you to see if you really are the fun, cool, high value guy that you are portraying yourself to be. She has to know if you are the real deal or just faking it to get in her pants. Based on how you react, she will either become far more attracted to you or realize that it was just too good to be true and lose all the attraction you had build up. When she tests you it does not mean she is being bitchy or mean or doesn’t like you. In fact, it is the exact opposite.

IF SHE IS GIVING YOU A TEST, THAT MEANS SHE IS STARTING TO LIKE YOU!

Cherish the moments a woman suddenly gives you resistance or gives you hell about something you said. She has to do this to filter out low value men to get to the quality men.

So how do you pass a woman’s test and solidify in her mind that you are the high quality guy she wants to be attracted to? You must be NON-REACTIVE. Don’t buy into the argument or sassy comment. She is trying to get a rise out of you and when you don’t stammer to try to explain yourself, start apologizing, or get upset her attraction to you goes through the roof. It shows that you truly are an awesome guy who doesn’t need her acceptance or approval to feel good about yourself. You do what you want to because you want to not because of how others will form opinions of you. This is insanely attractive!

Do not...I repeat...DO NOT take it personal! Instead look at it as a fun game. It is cute. She is telling you that she likes you and giving you an amazing opportunity to make her even more attracted to you.

Here are some of the main ways to successfully handle a woman’s tests:

-Ignore it. Sometimes the best way to handle a woman’s test is to simply ignore it and keep doing what you are doing - having fun bantering back and forth. This let’s her know that you, unlike most guys, are not going to buy into her little games. If done correctly, it will be forgotten and the conversation will move forward as if it never happened. Only she will be way more attracted to you.

-Say: “you are cute” with a smile. This is a great way to show her that you are unaffected. You find it cute that she is trying to test you because you now know it just means she likes you.

-Play along. Go over the top so she knows you are joking around and you don’t take this seriously at all. (Example: Her- "you are such a manwhore" You - "hey that is offensive...we prefer the term gigolo" - smile)

-Find out the REAL issue. If it is a more serious test stemming from her insecurities, find out what the real issue is and handle that instead. More often than not, it has to do with the fact she is afraid you don't really value her but just want sex. Don’t get caught up in a fake argument.

-Be willing to walk away. This is the most important concept you may ever learn about interacting with women. Know what you want and don’t want. What you are willing to put up with and what you are not. If it just doesn’t work out you have to be ok with that. It doesn’t mean you weren’t good enough or she wasn’t good enough for you, it just means you two are not compatible. No worries. There are a million fish in the sea and you are quite the catch.

Snapple Facts to Keep the Convo Going

Here is a great list of "Snapple Facts" that you can throw in when you run out of things to say to a girl or need a second to think of what to do next. I'm not sure how accurate they are but they are still fun.

You can use them by doing something like this:

"Hey did you know Goldfish have an attention span of only three seconds...hey that's kinda like you! Maybe you evolved from a goldfish...let me see your fishy face...lol"

Snapple Facts (#1 - #109)

#1 A Goldfish's attention span is three seconds

#2 Animals that lay eggs dont have belly buttons

#3 Beavers can hold their breathe for 45 minutes under water

#4 Slugs have 4 noses

#5 Camels have 3 eyelids

#6 A honey bee can fly at 15mph

#7 A queen bee can lay 800-1500 eggs per day

#8 A bee has 5 eyes

#9 The average speed of a housefly is 4.5 mph

#10 Mosquitos are attracted to people who just ate bananas

My Favorite 3 Question Cold Reading Game

Here is a fun game I learned in Psych 101 oh so many years ago. It works like a charm with the the lady folk. It gives you A LOT of room to tease, turn the convo sexual, and generally amaze her. Enjoy

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Me: Let's play a psychology game right now!:

Her: Ok

Me: Ok there are three questions I am going to ask you. Tell me the first thing that comes to your mind. You have to be completely honest for this to work. You sure you are ready for this?

Her: Yes

Me: Ok. Now you are going to have to remember your answers because I am going to be focusing on the interpretation. Ready?

Her: Let's do it

Me:
1. What is your favorite color? Now give me three reasons why you picked that one

2. What is your favorite animal? dido

3. If you could live by one body of water what would it be: an ocean, a lake or a river? once again...three reasons why you picked what you picked

Her:
1) White is my favorite color.
a) When I think of white & when I see white, I think clean, simple, fresh, and beautiful.
b) Most people think it's the absence of color, but really, in the visible light spectrum it is all colors combined. So really this is like saying my favorite color is the rainbow, and who hasn't looked at a rainbow and sighed in awe of it's beauty?
c) It reflects light the best, so there's a sense of luminosity to it. Basically, it makes the world glow.

2) My favorite animal is a manatee.
a) They like a cross between a fish, a bear, an elephant, a sting ray, and a sea lion...how amazing is that?!
b) They are non aggressive herbivores. Basically sweet and friendly, and they look it. I've always thought of them as 'the teddy bears of the sea.'
c) "They may use taste and smell, in addition to sight, sound, and touch to communicate. Manatees are capable of understanding discrimination tasks, and show signs of complex associated learning and advanced long term memory....That's just incredible, plus they get to swim all day.

3) I'm happiest when I'm next to any body of water, in any form, but if I had to choose it would be a river.
a) It's a combination of the ocean and a lake. It makes the same glorious sound as the ocean hitting the sand, and has the beautiful white wash like the ocean, but it's not salt water so you can drink it (if it's fresh).
b) You can play in it! You can play in all three, but with a lake you normally need an engine, but with rivers you canoe, raft, & innertube (oceans do have surfing and sailing though) and your scenery is constantly changing. The scenery on the ocean is normally the same.
c) Lastly & most importantly, rivers normally aren't crowded like lakes and beaches. When you're in a river (or by) your surrounded by amazing trees and rocks, and normally not a lot of people, with the exception of friends.

Her: So Dr. Race just exactly how crazy am I?

Me: Oh you definitely are crazy...j/k i actually just made it up...it doesn't mean anything haha

This always gets a laugh and makes her feel duped...it's awesome. Make sure you throw this in.

Her: you jerk (playfully punching me in the arm)

Me: I'm just kidding.

Answer #1: Ok so your favorite color is how others perceive You:
so others see u as gay (the white=rainbow) haha
no they see u as bright, fresh, beautiful..you make the world glow --from what i can tell about you..i would agree

Answer #2: your favorite animal is how you see yourself:
so you are sweet and friendly, express yourself through many different modes/senses, are a complex combination of many different amazing parts...oh ya and you are fat..haha j/k..just fluffy in an adorable "teddy bear of the sea kinda way" ---you know i love u (hug)

Answer #3: now as for your choice of the river, this is a reflexion of your sexuality...let's take a closer look shall we?!

once again we see a combination of what you see as the best aspects of several options...in fact, this let's me know you have a "both" mentality instead of an "either or"...you find ways to get all of what you want instead of just settling for one or the other

the fresh water analogy tells me you find your sexuality as a source of refreshment/nourishment...and if you go too long without expressing it you can get parched also you chose a place that is secluded (not many people/only your friends) tells me you are highly selective who you share your sexuality with...also it is a place of refuge for you.

you like how you can play in it and how the scenery always is changing...so you like diversity and sense of playfulness to be incorporated in your sexuality

wow this is by far the longest one i have ever done...you must slightly fascinate me

Her: whoa...it's basically scary how accurate that is. (look of wonder and amazement in her eyes)
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This was a real interaction I had with a girl. She happened to be the Prom Queen from my high school growing up. Who says you can't make up for missed opportunities..lol

Have fun with this. When done right, you are certain to capture her full attention. After all, there is nothing more interesting to someone than themselves :)